Phew, what a busy few days we’ve had seeing friends and family, playing in paddling pools, going swimming and to fairs and even having a meal out, en mass, without an utter Wailing Cacophony.
Today I completed the Race for Life with my mum and my sister in celebration of my mums recovery and to support and spur on my cousin and brother in law who are currently fighting cancer as hard as they possibly can.
It was absolutely heartwarming to see women of all ages, shapes and fitness levels with their own motivations written on the back of their tee shirts.
For my Mum
For my Sister
For my Husband/Dad/Friend…
There were pictures, stories of loss, stories of triumph and lots of women being cheered on loud and proud by friends, family and several dressed up dogs!
I didn’t take my girls this year but I certainly will do next time. So many children were running, walking, dancing and being pushed by mums, nans and aunties and they had their own tee shirts and motivations. Seeing things like
For my Grandpa
For my Best Friend
For my Nana
Written in childish lettering puts a lump in the throat like nothing else.
It must have been so tough for the families to break the news that someone they love was poorly or had passed away but what I observed today seemed to be an opportunity to say Thank-you or We Miss You and We Love you and We are fighting with you and for you as much as we can. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Allowing children the opportunity to do this too is hard and brave and probably very right.
Children are clever, they pick up on emotions and when things are not quite right for one reason and another.
This blog details brilliantly how hard it is for children to cope with loss but that does not necessarily mean that we should always totally shield them from it.
Perhaps allowing them to see that illness, difficulties, hurt and grief can be dealt with with positivity, love, togetherness and honesty is a good thing.
I am learning so much from being a mum. Caitlin Moran puts it brilliantly in her book Being A Woman. Read it, asap. I have a massive girl crush on her (and Liza Tarbuck actually- filthy laugh, but I digress!) I imagine I will bore you with some life lessons in the weeks to come but For now I think I will leave you all with these pearls of wisdom.
“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”
― Henry James
“If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn . . .
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight . . .
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive . . .
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself . . .
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy . . .
If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel envy . . .
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty …
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .
If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative . . .
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love . .
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves..
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .
If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .
If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . . .”
― Dorothy Law Nolte, Children Learn What They Live:
Have a lovely week peeps, we are off to the zoo tomorrow with one of my bestest friends are her babies. Eeek. Can’t wait.
Lots of love.